One of you to your marriage and the other feels there's no use, no hope left? Then Discernment Counselling is the best way to help you both see clearly your goals and needs. It helps you to see if couples therapy is a possible option or gives you both better clarity and understanding if divorce really is the better option.
Goals of Discernment Counselling:
Clarity about what direction to take for your marriage
Confidence as you move forward
A deeper understanding of what has happened to your marriage and what might be possible in the near future.
To my knowledge, there is no one else in South Africa that is trained in Discernment Counselling. Regardless if you are the 'leaning in' spouse (the one who still has hope) or the 'leaning out' spouse (the one who doesn't have hope), both of you will benefit from this (maximum) 5 session clarification process. There is no commitment to all five sessions - after each session, you will be able to decide if you want to schedule another one. The first session is 2 hours and the rest are 1.5 hours each.
I am the only one in South Africa that is qualified to provide Discernment Counselling.
Feel free to read some more on Discernment Counselling here.