The Happily Ever After Method
Live Program July 2025
Because lasting connection isn't for the lucky few or fairytales - it's a method!
You didn’t get married to feel this alone. But it's hard to see what's broken, something feels off (usually the communication gets the blame) - but you have kids, and everyone else thinks you have it together.
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You used to talk for hours. Your heart fluttered and your stomach did somersaults when you'd see each other, and your mind was full of the other. It felt like nothing could ever crumble a love this strong.. Until now you're wondering if there is anything else you could possibly do without breaking. You feel so alone and don't understand why it's so hard for him to do the 'simple' things you need - like asking how you are, and being genuinely interested. Or planning activities with the kids around what they'd like to do (without being asked feels like pushing it).. You're not looking for foot rubs (though that would be nice. Maybe). You want to feel like the person you couldn't stop thinking about still wants you, desires you, and sees you.​​​
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​Now you talk. Things maybe change for a week or two. Or not at all. You share. He shuts down.
You try to bring something up, and nothing (or he says he needs time to think but you don't hear from him again).
So you stay patient. You say it softer. You try again. You research better ways to bring things up. You wonder if you're the problem.
​Because at least ...
At least he's not cheating.
At least he's a good dad.
At least... how did we land up in a place of settling for breadcrumbs when you had a love so solid and real. ​
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You want to see the man you once so deeply desired, and him to see you again.
And that's exactly what we do in the Happily Ever After Method. ​
Understand the undercurrent patterns pulling you two in opposite directions and screwing with your communication, build new patterns and fill your toolbox with tools that actually work, and design the relationship you desire without nagging. Raise the standard, let others meet you there. Its for you your kids and your partner.
INTRODUCING
The Happily Ever After Method
Happily Ever After isn’t a fairytale. It’s a method. And it works. Based on over a decade of private practice experience as a therapist, a mom and wife dedicated to understanding my clients and my own family better. Inside, we trade blame for understanding, resentment for clarity, and over-functioning for deep connection.
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This is an 8-week live group program for individuals and couples who are ready to uncover the roots of their relationship patterns, rewrite the way they love and relate, and build a lasting connection rooted in mutual safety, compassion, respect, and trust.
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Whether you're dating, married, or even if you’re single, this program gives you the foundational tools to help you stop repeating harmful patterns that damage your relationship over time so that you can create the fairy tale love story that you’ve always wanted. Even if you're partner isn't keen on doing this, you will get so much out of it that will change the pattern for both of you. And if you're the partner that doesn't like talking about feelings, it's okay - I get it, and I've got you too. This process will be the most comfortable exploration of your marriage you probably get!
Get crystal clear on what happened to your relationship(s) and it will give you the clarity and confidence for what ever your next step needs to be.
Why It's Called Happily Ever After?
We grew up believing that once you find “the one,” it should just work.
In fairy tales, the struggle ends with a kiss.
The villain is defeated. Cue the music. Fade to black.
But in real life?
We start seeing each other as the villain.
Resentment builds. Conversations turn into battles.
And love starts to feel more like survival than safety.
Not because you’re broken.
Not because your relationship is doomed.
But because no one ever taught you how to actually do love that lasts.
Your past shaped your patterns. But it doesn’t have to shape your future.
The Happily Ever After Method gives you real tools - grounded in emotional intelligence and nervous system clarity - to stop replaying the old and start building something solid, together.
No fairy godmother required.
Just truth, skills, and a willingness to choose each other again. This doesn't mean you'll never have a disagreement again, but the disagreements are safer, last shorter and feel more supported.
Inside The Happily Ever After Method, you'll:
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Understand your patterns and how they sabotage safety (so that you can take back your relationship);
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Learn how to speak your needs without over-explaining or shutting down (it's not about nagging but understanding each others needs);
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Practical steps to rebuild trust - even if it’s been broken for years (and the trust that was broken before (s)he was in the picture);
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Set boundaries that create cooperation, not power struggles;
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Feel emotionally equipped for the hard stuff (conflict, intimacy, triggers). This is one of the biggest reasons our communication methods fail;
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Stop over-functioning and start feeling seen, supported, and safe.
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You’ll walk away with:
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A framework you can return to for the rest of your relationship.
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A new language for connection that makes sense to both of you.
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Confidence in your identity and safety in your body.
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A real sense of choice, not just survival.
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Whether you’re coming solo, with a willing partner, or unsure if you should stay—this method meets you where you are.
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If staying small was what you were meant to do - it wouldn't feel so freaking uncomfortable!!
the method
A private intimate group program that runs live weekly over 9 weeks!
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Where: Zoom & Telegram (so you don't need Facebook to join us)
When: The warm up (and personal assessment) kicks off MONDAY, 21 July and the first live call Thursday 24 July.
Time: THURSDAYS 18:00 SAST / 12:00 noon EST
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My Promise: Is to deliver the top tools that I know can not only rebuild your relationship but transform your confidence and raise the standard without needing to beg and plead.
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Price: $997 for Individuals / $1450 for Couples
(R15,000 / R23,500 for South Africans earning Rands)
The price goes up with $300 15 JULY 2025. ​
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This isn’t another communication workshop. It’s not therapy speak in cute slides. And it’s not a list of scripts to keep the peace.
This is identity-level, conscious and subconscious work that helps you:
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See what’s really running the show (spoiler: it’s not your logic)
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Regulate without bypassing
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Heal without performing
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Connect without fawning or freezing
I combine 15+ years of therapeutic experience, attachment science, subconscious tools, and parts work - so that you can actually FEEL the shifts, not just talk about them.
We have done weekend intensives in the US and other big well known couples programs, but this one is even better. Thank you! MP
This is for you if:
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You feel more like roommates than teammates.
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You’re tired of being the one holding the emotional weight.
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You’re anxious, avoidant, or just confused about why the same fights keep repeating.
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You want a partner, not someone else you have to micromanage.
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You crave safety, intimacy, and clarity.
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You’re tired of being the one who has to bring up the hard things.
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You’ve tried therapy or communication tools, but it doesn’t stick.
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You’re not sure if you should stay or go, but you know this can’t continue.
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You’re ready to understand your patterns, not blame yourself for them.
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You want a high-support container with actual live help, not just DIY videos.
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You’re here for your kids, for your partner, or just for yourself but you’re ready to figure this out.
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You don't need to tick them all, just one is enough.
You will learn more about yourself and your relationship than you have with any other program ever. And have my hands on expertise at your finger tips. Whether you're a mom, a dad, a couple trying again, or single and ready to break your own cycle - this is your mirror and your map.
Tehilla encompasses what it means to have a calling as apposed to a career or job. This is something you rarely find in today's times. She invests in your wellbeing.
Her beautiful nature spills over into her passion, her knowledge and experience is second to none.
​We are so incredibly grateful to have her walk our journey with us. She has made us see our marriage in a new light with no anger, resentment, feeling as though we are falling apart and not on the same page.
She is an Angel of hope!
Thank you Tehilla!
Our arguments are rarely about the facts we fight with but about the unmet needs behind the fight. You don't just get tools, you get a translator in this program.
Please DON’T join this program if…
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You believe that your partner is 100% the problem and aren’t willing to look at your own patterns, coping strategies, and communication habits.
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You’re in an abusive relationship. Your safety is the first priority. This program isn’t trauma-safe for domestic violence situations, and I strongly recommend support that centers your protection and exit planning.
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You’re hoping for a miracle without doing the work. This isn’t magic, it's a method. It will take application, trial and error, nervous system work, and radical honesty with yourself. But I will be there with you, guiding you.
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You need your partner to participate in order for this to “work” - while it’s beautiful when both partners do the work, HEA is designed to create massive change from the inside-out, even if you’re the only one enrolled. But if you only want tools to fix them, this won’t land.
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You’re looking for scripts without soul - we go deeper than just what to say. We explore why you’re wired the way you are, how to find your voice again, and how to build safety with both your body and your boundaries.
When you join Happily Ever After, you will get access to…
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8 Weekly Live Zoom Calls (each focused on a core relationship pillar) (Value $2400)
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10 Weeks of Telegram Group Support and Prompts: M-F for real-time questions and coaching (Value $1750)
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Replays of All Live Calls (hosted on YouTube for easy listening access)
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Printable Workbook that contains journaling prompts and practices (based on the topic of the week) (Value $97)
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Bonuses worth the price of the course alone (Value $750)
Instead of paying over $5,000 you can transform your love story for only $997! This is the cheapest way to have this much access to my support, available!
(South African? No problem, email me)!
Live Calls Where We Personalize The Lessons
Once a week on Zoom I share with you a pillar of the Happily Ever After Method, and you have a chance to ask questions, and we can do hotseat coaching in the call.
Bonuses worth the course price alone
From parenting scripts to help you two parent more aligned, to scripts on how to talk so he listens without nagging, reparenting scripts to reconnect and heal your inner child wounds, meditations, communication activities, attachment theory support, and more.
A real vault of golden nuggets.
Telegram support
So much theory sounds good, but if you can't implement it - it's a waste of time. With this group telegram chat you can ask questions, celebrate wins, and be part of a safe, sacred community that is working on the same movement.
Community
So many of my clients are surrounded by people but feel so alone. They look so happy and sorted, but feel like they're drowning in the expectations and that they're doing it wrong, This community is to show you you're not alone, and you're seen.
A Deep Dive Journal / Workbook
Take the modules even deeper with a workbook that goes along with the course and helps you to reflect even deeper where you might not notice subconscious patterns at play, commitments you want to make to yourself, and an easy way to reflect on the calls without having to rewatch the whole class.
Daily interaction with me
My sessions are booked out, and usually start at $300 for 45 minutes. Here you have me in your pocket for 10 weeks! I am committed to checking every message daily (Monday's to Friday's) and being a support to you as best I can.
Please note: Deep trauma work is best dealt with in 1:1 sessions not group work. You'll still get a lot out of this program but deep wounds will need more time and individual support usually.
The Line-Up:
Pre-Work: Hidden patterns vs Personality Assessment
(Value $500)
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A breakdown of your real relational goals and blind spots (the questionnaires take you deep before we've even begun).
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A starting point so you can track real transformation.
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Clarity before the first live call even begins.
Week 1: Understanding the patterns running your relationships
These aren't just interesting (and it is super interesting) but also fundamental to stopping the dance that's hurting your relationships. "You’re not broken. You’re just wired for survival." Uncover the hidden roles you own in love and begin loosening their grip. Understand yourself and have more compassion for your cycles.
Week 2: Communication tools that actually work
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Communication is the number one reason most couples come to see me. But what sounds good in theory doesn't always relate to real life. These are the best tools you will need to speak without collapsing or over explaining, or feeling like you're speaking to a wall and nagging.
Week 3: How to fight better (and the art of apologies, validation & repairing)
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Conflict isn’t the problem. Disconnection is. Get tools for ruptures, repairs, and staying grounded when things get hard. Includes validation and apology mastery.
Week 4: Healthy EQ (and digging into anger & shame)
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You’re not too emotional. You’re just under-supported. Learn how to decode what you’re really feeling, respond to triggers, and reclaim anger as a sacred guide. None of us grew up with a healthy full experience of emotions nor do you need to be a poet to communicate. But our emotions are friends not foes, and have an important job that just gets louder (or blunter) if we don't listen.
Week 5: Boundaries that Honor & Protect
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Boundaries are not walls. They are guidelines to clarity. Set boundaries that protect your peace, invite cooperation, and shift the power dynamic. We all hear about boundaries but few of us really know the difference between boundaries and requests (or how to feel safe with boundaries).
Week 6: Resentment Release Process
​Resentment isn’t bitterness. It’s grief and protection that hasn’t been named. Let go of the invisible emotional load without poisoning yourself.
Week 7: Rebuilding Trust Tangibly - And Intimacy
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Restore closeness in a way that honors your body, your story, and your safety. Tangible exercises to rebuild trust on a deeper level! Trust that lasts.
Week 8: Mapping Your Very Own Happily Ever After Way Forward
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You’re not starting over from scratch - this time you have a map. Create shared rhythms, co-write new vows, and define a future rooted in clarity, joy, and connection.
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Week 9: Post-Program Telegram Support
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Additional telegram support to make sure you really get to make the most out of this process. I am rooting for you! I don't just want you to intellectually get things - I want you to be transformed by it.
"Our kids are happier since we've been doing this [program]!"
MG
"Thank you for sharing your incredible gift with the world.I've strengthened and made sense of multiple relationships, starting with romantic, but moving to parental, sibling, children ... unexpected areas that have benefitted from focus and healing.​I would highly recommend your services and guidance to anyone who truly wants to heal and grow. Your ability to reveal the most vulnerable places to heal and provide awareness and self-healing tools is exceptional. Your intuitive ability is far from traditional talk-therapy, but rather a far deeper, more holistic healing process. The relationship with you has been truly life-changing."
MB
WWWOWOWWW. Mind blown! We could easily identify our ‘injury’ and we will keep this in mind going forward. How valuable to now understand why we act the way we do. THIS was AMAZING! Made me tear up! I will practice this!! Really enjoying this! Thanks!
Kat
I enjoyed the course tremendously and have great respect for Tehilla's wisdom, insights, research and the compassion with which she helps us to come to grips with many challenges that we as couples are grappling with on a daily basis. Thank you - well worth it!
Caroline G., Clinical Psychologist
Real Life Real Love
As a married mom, wife, and therapist I GET how inundating all the information, pressures, and expectations are. You are not alone and I have used every tool I share in here to help my husband and I build a more secure, solid, happy space. That's also unique to us. Because with these tools, its not about a cookie cutter relationshiop, but building the one that suits you and your family best. Not becuase of what society told you it should look like, your parents, or church. You get to honor yourself and your family with the right frame work.​
If your partner only steps up when you fall apart, your breakdowns are doing the work of your boundaries. Let me help you with boundaries that invite co-operation not resistance.
$997
South Africans earning Rands R15,000 (or two payments of R8,000)
Limited Space
For those who KNOW this is the program but can't afford it, I have a few spaces for discounted rates. To apply, email me: info@thecouplesconnection.com and just share why you'd like to join and what you could afford and lets see what we can do!
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And for those who would like to sponsor others to join, please do. I fully believe this program is going to change many lives.
If you’re still reading, this is probably for you.
You don’t have to wait until it all breaks down. You don’t have to keep carrying the emotional load alone. You don’t have to give up on love to protect your peace.
You just need a method that meets your heart where it’s really at.
Click below to join The Happily Ever After Method. Let this be the chapter where you chose yourself—and love got to feel like home again.
FAQ
Do we both have to attend?
No, you can do this with or without your partner. Often, your changes in confidence, perceptions, and patterns are enough to disrupt the old script and help you two to rewrite the new story. I've had husbands write me and thank me for saving their marriage - even though they didn't even attend!
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Do we have to attend live?
The calls are recorded and you will have access to them within 24 hours after the call. But I do recomend you joining as many live as you can, as you get to ask questions and integrate it more then.
What is Telegram?
Telegram is like whatsapp except no one has your (or my cell number). I create a private group for us all on this mastermind to have a space to ask, via voicenotes questions and we can make tweaks and see what's working or not with the homework each week. It's a wonderful additional tool, like having me in your pocket.
And to ensure we don't inundate everyone with messages there, the questions will be limited to one per person per day.
What if we're newly weds?
This is a fabulous gift to yourself and your marriage (even if you're not married yet) as we go deep into the FOUNDATIONS of a happy marriage.
Why do we need to pay more if my partner joins?
Many people do this on their own, and their partner is welcome to watch the recordings in their own time. The reason I made it more for those who's partners join the program is becuase there are two peoples questions I will be answering and the time it takes for that extra person needs to be accredited for.
Is there a money back guarantee?
Due to the intense time and effort I put into creating this program, there is no money back refund option However, if you are unhappy, please do reach out and talk to me. Let's figure out how to make this work. And if we can't, and it's within the first week of signing up, I would happily refund you.
How to know if we need this or therapy?
This is the basis of my therapy tools I use with clients and so I trust it is a strong, and very necessary foundation. However, if you are in the throws of big emotions, difficult battles, and hard conversations, group work might not be best and recommend more one-on-one support (with me or a therapist in your area).
Please note I do NOT work with domestic violence / abuse at all.
Have questions?
E-mail me at info@thecouplesconnection.com
abouttehilla
Hi, I’m Tehilla — trauma therapist turned relationship rebel.I help couples understand their relationship on a much deeper level, and how our childhood first relationships impact our adult relationships. I also help people pleasers to stop self-abandoning to get the love and support they're craving.
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