How to know when your relationship is over?
Updated: Jul 9
It can be scary to even
go there, to think those thoughts. But when it sneaks up, it can feel hard to ignore. Learn how to know when your relationship is over...
1. Evaluate your feelings: The first step is to identify your feelings towards your partner. Do you feel happy and content when you are with them? Or do you feel anxious, sad, or frustrated? Be honest with yourself about your emotions and consider how long you've been feeling that way.
2. Communicate with your partner: If you are experiencing negative emotions, it's important to communicate your concerns with your partner. Schedule a time to talk and be clear about your feelings. Listen to what your partner has to say as well, and try to empathize with their perspective.
3. Identify potential solutions: After communicating with your partner, brainstorm potential solutions to your concerns. You may need to compromise, make changes to your routine, or seek professional help. You can see me for individual support, or a couples assessment where we can assess what has gotten your relationship to this point. Or you can do my self-study course to learn relationship tools to improve your relationship DIY.
4. Take time for reflection: Once you've implemented changes, take some time to reflect on whether or not your relationship has improved. Do you feel happier and more fulfilled? Have your concerns been adequately addressed? If necessary, continue to communicate and work on finding a resolution.
5. Consider separation: If there are no solutions to your concerns, or you and your partner are unable to come to an agreement, it may be time to consider separation. Breaking up is a difficult decision, but sometimes it's the best choice for your well-being.
Remember to take your time and carefully consider your emotions before making a decision. It's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being in any relationship. I have worked with hundreds of people. Many of whom their relationships was in dire straits - nothing recognizable left to work with - except for their desire to, and they made it work. Turned the resentment around and used it for fuel to reignite their passion. And others with not much noticeably wrong with the relationship but the feelings gone and no space left to rekindle, and so divorce was the next sane step. So no matter what I share here, I want you two to know - that you are the ones that ultimately have to decide that. And please know - divore does not cause broken homes, it's a symptom of broken homes. Don't stay for your kids unless you plan on staying and working on it. Want to chat? E-mail me. I'd love to hear from you.