Secure Love:
Understanding Subconscious Patterns (Attachment Wounds) Sabotaging Your Relationships So You Can Stop Them And Thrive
Decoding Your Attachment Style To Heal And Thrive In Love
Love isn’t broken. But when you’re stuck in attachment patterns you don’t even realize are playing out, it feels like you’re dancing alone—while your partner’s missing the music entirely. That ache? It’s real. But it’s not permanent.
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You reach out. He pulls away. You try to explain. He shuts down. What started as love slowly becomes mismatched choreography—and now you’re both walking on eggshells instead of dancing. Or perhaps you're here, wondering how to get your partner to give you more space, without taking it personally?
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The good news? You’re not doomed to repeat the same Groundhog Day fights (or endure the deafening silence) forever.
Inside this masterclass, you’ll:
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Understand yourself and your partner in a whole new way;
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Create space for both compassion and healthy authority in your relationship;
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And walk away confidently equipped with tools to shift the dynamic—without begging, blaming, or burning out.
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Once you understand what's really driving you each (they're different things), and what to do about it, love get's to be easier again. And you see yourself, your partner (and even your kids, if you have) in such a different light. This course will not only give you profound insights, but tools to shift the dynamic too.
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Let’s begin.
See a new you (and him) in the next hour! Only $37 (R500 Zar)
How did we get from where we were, to here?
A self-paced guide to understanding your attachment style, decoding your and your partner’s often subconscious patterns, and building the secure connection you’ve craved.
This is not your typical attachment theory course, and you will walk away feeling equipped and seen!
I remember years ago, when my then boyfriend (now husband) was out fishing on a boys trip, thinking, how can he take so long to come home, after he's been out all weekend on a boys trip! Doesn't he love me? Or texting him, seeing he is online, and then thinkiing "Geez - why won't he write back immediately?" The dreaded background whisper of:
"Does he really just not care?"
In my head I thought if he really loved me, he would RACE home to me. That if he really loved me, he would text me as soon as he saw I wrote. I didn't notice what I was doing. I didn't realize I was assuming our logic was the same, our behavior was motivated the same way - or that at many times, our feelings (and logic) were based on fear not truth.
There are so many aspects of our relationships that we think "if he would just.." or "maybe if I...". And it can keep us stuck and circling the same conversations, same arguments, same situations, without momentum. If anything shifts its for a day, maybe even a week, but then it resumes to the old ways.
The good news is you don't have to wait for him to be ready for couples therapy, or repeat the same fight in a new way, for things to take a turn now already! When you understand why you do what you do, and why he responds the way he does - everything gets a lot easier! This course is packed with insights, AND tools to help you get the support, validation, and connection you long for.
​What if it's not the wrong person?
What if you aren't too much?
What if things can start changing today already?
Brene Brown defines "Connection" as "being seen, heard, and appreciated".
Start the transformation immediately, $37 / R500
There are SO many women I have seen (men too) that would keep giving as much as they do for the family with a lot less resentment - if it was at least appreciated. Understanding how we are wired differently as our core relationships in childhood informed us, can give your relationship the new level it needs to get more support, and feel truly loved.
And that is why I creatd this course. I have seen over the last decade in private practice the immediate impact this insight gave to all my high end 1:1 private clients, and I want to make the world a better place. I believe each society is made up by communities, and families are the backbone of our communities. I want our children to grow up in secure love, and I want our relationships to thrive. It breaks my heart to see how many people are shifting apart when I have the tools to help you bring change, today already.
"I am very impressed with Tehilla's comprehensive knowledge on the subject of couple's work."
D Hofmeyer, Clinical Psychologist
Why is he so distant?
You’re doing all the right things…
But the more you try to connect, the more distant things feel.
It’s not that you're unlovable.
It's not that he doesn’t care.
It’s that your love languages were built for survival, not connection.
I've done over 20 different books, courses, programs on attachment and never heard it this way. Thank you. This makes so much sense!
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