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Clear, professional support to navigate the waters of love, life & relationships.

relationship counselling

How did we get here? Is our relationship even saveable?

We aren't taught the complexities of relationships, and it's not as easy as the 'being in love' can be. Happily ever after is a lot harder than illustrated in the romantic fairytales! Navigating life together with someone else doesn't come naturally (cue: remove all 'should's' from your vocabulary), and social media often adds to the feeling that 'other couples are rocking it, so why aren't we?'.
Thankfully there are evidence-based tools and useful insights to help you rebuild your relationship (and yourself in the process) into what you had in mind in the first place! I am passionate about helping families find their safe space and giving clients quality services tailor-made for you! 

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A safe space for you to:

  • gain insights into your relationship,

  • learn tools to regulate and modify dysfunctional behaviour,

  • get closer (reconnected and intimate),

  • improve communication

  • build on your strengths.

  • Affair crisis management and recovery.

How can what was once a source of great pride, security, and happiness can become a pit of:
  • Loneliness
  • Disconnection
  • Resentment & Frustration
  • Feeling Lost & Scared
  • Deep Sadness & Grief
  • Agony & Dispair
  • And even have symptoms of PTSD (usually after trauma or affair discovery)?
We aren't taught how to work beyond being in love, and things have changed a great deal over the years with regards to relationships, child-rearing, work, and life in general. Yet somehow we feel ashamed that we can't get it right? 
As a wife, and mom of two (that are 1 year apart), I get it! And I am so passionate about helping you understand what's happened and how to heal from the pain and grow into something stronger!

After having my own play therapy practice working with children I realised that I actually had a quicker positive effect on the children - BY HELPING THEIR PARENTS FIRST! (And as a parent - I don't mean to shame - I really do get how hard it is)! I decided in 2014 to shift my focus and invested in studying a lot more about couples counselling. I have been honing my skills from incredible professionals in the field from around the world, especially drawn to The Gottmans, Emotional Focused Therapy, EFT (tapping), Brief Solutions Focused Therapy, Attachment theory, Body Work, Brain Working Recursive Techniques, as well as tailor-making the various tools to help your unique situation. 


And with COVID, I've also had to rearrange the way things were and how my family life ran. I now work three nights a week to cater for parents also struggling to juggle work and kids, who can now conveniently have their sessions from home, once the kids are in bed. I also do Saturdays (if booked for 3 hours minimum).

I offer online, evidence-based couples counselling & exclusive, tailormade workshops/intensives for couples wanting to get back what they had and rebuild their connections. All I need from you is a commitment. And if your partner isn't ready to commit to counselling - I'll help you individually with tools, support and insights. It's a bit slower than couples' work, but it is possible to have an incredible impact on your relationship.


Based in Hermanus, South Africa but serving couples nearly anywhere (online), I am passionate about re-establishing family values.

I know reaching out about something so intimate and precious is incredibly hard - and I commend your courage for being here!

Contact me to set up your appointment, so we can get started:

The Process:

Committed to offering personalized and quality services, that get to the core of your issues as quickly as possible I use the best parts of numerous evidence-based tools and insights from across the world to address your relationship needs. My sessions are also longer (not your traditional hour session of once a week), as I have found we cover a lot more ground in longer sessions, helping you two recover your safe harbor of home sooner. So sessions start at 90 minutes long and can be booked for longer (2 to 5 hours long, or weekend intensives). 

I also do dig! I don't settle for surface value issues. I know that what we've lived through in the past has a big effect on our expectations, triggers, and attitudes. Therefore I do individual history taking sessions to get to know you two better and thereby, help you both quicker. 

All sessions are private, and workshops will only be with you and your partner - no one else. 


Click here to schedule your first appointment or your 10-minute free consult. 


Complete my paperwork (the questionnaires and assessments already open up some new thoughts and attitudes). Commit to learning more about relationships, your relationship, and yourselves. Book your sessions. Set up a spot at home with good internet and that's comfortable and quiet, where you can be uninterrupted (as much as possible) for our sessions. 


Get yourselves a warm cuppa coffee or something to drink, get cozy, and click the link for the Zoom meeting. Participate in the sessions and the homework (homework helps us see what works and what doesn't work for you). Going to therapy is IMMENSELY courageous! It takes far more guts and strength to get vulnerable (intimate) than it does to pretend the emotions are overrated or non-existent.


Create and enjoy the relationship, connection, passion & life you desire.

PLEASE NOTE the following requirements:

  • You need to be committed to learning more about yourself and your relationship. This is not a place to find more blame for your partner.

  • That anyone who is struggling with addiction, mental illness, or domestic violence will need to be in ongoing, active individual counselling with your own therapist before we can do couples counselling or coaching.

  • A strong, stable internet connection.

29, 7th Avenue, Voelklip, HERMANUS

Western Cape, South Africa

The Couples Connection

Tel: +27- (0)87-135-4344

Tehilla Luttig

Registered Private Practice Counsellor 

Pr No 0538396 Reg No PRC0016837  

(Hons. BSocSci Psychology - UCT 2007)

Certified Life Coach

Licensed BWRT practioner

Tehilla Luttig's profile on the Gottman Referral Network